tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414409.post109940980774268968..comments2023-06-11T03:44:49.158-06:00Comments on Knit Haven: Blah!phoenix_anewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07624722842611865939noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414409.post-1099499786234138562004-11-03T09:36:00.000-07:002004-11-03T09:36:00.000-07:00Hi Phoenix~
I am sorry to hear about the stress th...Hi Phoenix~<br />I am sorry to hear about the stress that all the changes are causing! <br /><br />My suggestion would be to involve the kids as much as possible in determining both the reward and the punishments--not just that, but determining what gets them which. I have seen charts made that are kept on the fridge or in the den that show good and bad behaviors (cleaning your room, going to bed on time, OR saying mean things to family member, throwing a tantrum) and then what happens if they rack up too many marks in either column (trip to zoo/park, go to movie, OR no video games/tv for a day or week etc...)<br /><br />That way you can talk to them about why the bad behavior is undesirable... ie, "why do you think it is important to go to bed on time?" And also about consequences "what would be a fair punishment if you hurt your sister's feelings?"<br /><br />Here are two links to systems like that:<br />http://childparenting.about.com/cs/behaviorproblems/a/behaviormod.htm (how-to article) http://www.webehave.com/beast.htm (full activity set for sale)<br /><br />Feel better, this too shall pass.<br />And RAOK on!Chelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14979614050697222375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414409.post-1099413698975731262004-11-02T09:41:00.000-07:002004-11-02T09:41:00.000-07:00(((HUGS))) it's so hard on everyone when there's a...(((HUGS))) it's so hard on everyone when there's a ton of change/upheaval in someone's life. Have you ever read the book "HOw to talk so kids will listen; how to listen so kids will talk" ? It's awesome. I have a new bumpersticker on my car that I use as a daily reminder with the kids I have at school- "Look past the behaviour- what is your child feeling?" Sometimes it doesn't mean they're being disobedient because they want to make you feel angry/upset, but a way of dealing with whatever they're feeling on the inside. Sometimes that's a hard nut to crack, but when you do, it's great. :-D<br /><br />I hope it gets better for you all!<br /><br />lynn at mindfulmoderation.comtrackingprojectbackpackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07547799217698719147noreply@blogger.com